What’s The Password!? Patience!

I’ve been told that I and members my family have an odd habit of trying to carry everything in one trip. Trunk full of groceries? No problem..hang them all from your arms, and fingers (its okay if you lose feeling in your arms, it will come back). There is only one hitch in this plan…

The Password Game.

Lately, my children have been jumping in front of me, stretching out their arms to block my way and then demanding I give them a password for passage.

Often, their passwords are impossible to guess (example from yesterday: dragon’s talon)

Sometimes, its a lot easier (example from 5 minutes later: again, dragon’s talon)

Most of the time I try to have fun with it and if I know just what it is, I’ll guess other things. (dragon’s breath? dragon’s wing? dragon’s lair?)

But sometimes…it takes everything in me not to push past them. Like the other day when I was carrying the basket full of clean, folded laundry in one arm and the baby (who is squirming out of my grasp) in the other and my phone between my shoulder and ear (talking to my mom) and I’m almost to the top of the stairs when Henry jumps up, races in front of me and–arms out– blocks my way on the last stair.

“What’s the password!?”

“Dragon’s castle?”


“Dragon’s scale?”


“Dragon’s talon?”


Out of ideas and out of patience, I tell Henry to “step aside! My hands are full!”


It was really hard at this moment not to push past. And I’ll be honest, I have before. But this time, I took a deep breath and asked for a hint.


“Henry!! I need—-”

He interrupted me and said in a whisper, “Mama, it’s ‘I love you’.”

oh! With my heart in a different place, I said the truth: “I love you.”

And he opened the gate and let me past. I unloaded my arms and swept this sweet child in my arms and kissed him. And I said a prayer to heaven for the extra measure of patience.

I love Preach My Gospel’s definition of patience:


Patience is the capacity to endure delay, trouble, opposition, or suffering without becoming angry, frustrated, or anxious. It is the ability to do God’s will and accept His timing. When you are patient, you hold up under pressure and are able to face adversity calmly and hopefully. Patience is related to hope and faith—you must wait for the Lord’s promised blessings to be fulfilled.

So perfectly stated.

That afternoon, Joseph was helping me unload groceries from the car. It happened to be 8 degrees outside that day. We both had armfuls of bags and as Joseph went to open the door, it cracked opened from the inside. Henry peeked out.

“What’s the password?”

I almost laughed out loud at the expression on Joseph’s face. I whispered, “Try, ‘I love you’!!”

“I love you.”

“Yes!!” said Henry happily as he opened the door the rest of the way and let us walk in from the arctic weather.

On a scale of 1-10, how great is your capacity to endure delay, trouble, opposition or suffering without becoming angry, frustrated, or anxious? Life offers many more and much bigger road blocks than just the password game. But I really believe God gives us the little practices in patience to help us learn for the big moments.

I hope ideas about how to practice greater patience come to you as you study today!

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S: (Prayer/Ask) What does God want me to learn from patience?

M: (Study)

  • Read the familiar “compare the word to a seed” passage (Alma 36:28-43) but this time read it as an essay on patience. Underline the three times the word patience is used.
  • From Preach My Gospel: Study Mosiah 28:1–9. What were the desires of the sons of Mosiah?, What was the Lord’s counsel to those missionaries? (See Alma 17:10–11and 26:27.) What were some results of their patience and diligence? (See Alma 26.)
  • Read this short verse from the Doctrine and Covenants– what does patience have to do with ‘possessing your soul’?

And seek the face of the Lord always, that in patience ye may possess your souls, and ye shall have eternal life. Doctrine and Covenants 101:38

O: (Ponder)

  • Sometimes situations do require action– how can we keep the balance of patience and actively working to remedy a situation?
  • Do you think God must exercise patience? Why? What does He have that allows Him to have Perfect Patience with us?
  • Why does pride make us more impatient? How does humility keep us patient?

R: (Write) your thoughts, what you learned, impressions you received, and anything else in your scripture journal (include your thoughts on the study session question: What does God want me to learn from patience?) Also consider writing down the following:

  • Write down three situations that happen often in which you think you could be more patient. Write down why you think these situations are particularly hard to stay patient.
  • Write down a few answers to this question: How does one become more patient?

E: (Prayer/Thank)- thank God for what you’ve learned and ask if there is anymore.

The Challenge: Look back at the three situations you identified as ‘prone to lose patience moments’. Pick one and the next time is comes up, say a prayer to stay patient. Afterwards, write about it in your scripture journal!

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  1. Alisha

    Reading Alma 32 while thinking of patience made me realize that patience is more than just a feeling. It’s not like being embarrassed or jealous. Those are passing feelings that typically don’t consume most people all the time. However patience can become a part of us, something that can continue to grow within us if we nurture it and let it touch our hearts.

    1. larabuckwalter (Post author)

      What a great way to look at patience! I love your idea of patience growing within us rather than us just feeling patience at times. Thanks Alisha for sharing!

  2. Annette@FitnessPerks

    Oh how I loved this story and study! I’ve got lots to work on that’s for sure. I think it’s interesting –and eye opening–how much humility has to do with patience…..
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  3. larabuckwalter (Post author)

    it is amazing how pride really keeps us from Christ-like attributes… Thanks for your comment Annette!


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